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The 12-Week Coaching Journey

Twelve weeks to slow down, understand the patterns running your life and relationships, and practice a more honest, grounded, and connected way of being a man.

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12

WEEKS

EMOTIONAL STRENGTH
EMBODIED POWER
REAL CONNECTION

01 / WHY A JOURNEY?

Insight can explain the pattern.
Practice is what changes it.

You may already know why you shut down, get defensive, overwork, become controlling, or lose access to what you feel. But when the pressure hits, knowing is rarely enough.
This journey gives us time to work beneath the reaction, build emotional capacity in your body, and practice a different response until it becomes available when life gets real.

“This isn’t twelve
weeks of advice. It’s
twelve weeks of
practicing how you
want to live.”

02 / THIS MAY BE FOR YOU IF

You’re ready to stop
starting over.

  • You understand your patterns intellectually, but still repeat them when you are triggered.
  • You want more closeness, yet anger, shutdown, defensiveness, or distance keeps getting in the way.
  • You are tired of managing one crisis at a time and want to change what keeps creating them.
  • You can show up for everyone else, but struggle to stay connected to your own experience.
  • You are ready to practice between sessions—not just talk about what you should do differently.

03 / THE 12-WEEK MAP

Four phases.
One integrated journey.

The map gives us direction. Your real life determines where we slow down, what needs attention, and how the work becomes personal.

01

WAKE UP

Notice what is actually
happening.

Before you can change a pattern, you have to catch it in the act. We establish where you are,
reconnect you with your body, and begin recognizing the armor that once protected you.

WEEK 01

Where Am I, Really?

A direct inventory of what is working, what is not, and what you are no longer willing to keep repeating.

WEEK 02

The Body Knows First

Learn to track sensation, activation, numbness, and the physical signals that arrive before the reaction.

WEEK 03

The Armor

Recognize the strategies—control, humor, achievement, withdrawal, fixing—that help you avoid what feels dangerous underneath.

 

02

REGULATE & RECLAIM

Build capacity for the
emotions you avoid.

We stop treating emotions as problems to eliminate. You learn what they are signaling, how they
move through the body, and how to stay present without being hijacked.

WEEK 01

Anger & Boundaries

Separate anger from aggression and listen for the crossed boundary, unmet need, hurt, or power underneath it.

 

WEEK 05

Fear & Anxiety

Work with activation, uncertainty, and the impulse to control so fear can inform you without running you.

 

WEEK 06

Sadness & Grief

Make room for loss, disappointment, and tenderness without collapsing, fixing, or turning them into anger.

 

03

MEET WHAT YOU HIDE

Turn toward the parts
you learned to reject.

The qualities you judge, hide, or disown do not disappear. They shape your reactions from the
background. We bring them into the room with curiosity and responsibility.

WEEK 07

Shame

Recognize the voice that says something is wrong with you and learn to stay connected instead of hiding or proving.

 

WEEK 08

The Protector & the Younger Man

Understand what your protective reactions are defending and begin relating differently to the younger part beneath them.

WEEK 03

The Armor

Explore the traits, desires, and power you have pushed away—and reclaim the energy held inside them.

 

04

LIVE IT

Bring the work into your
relationships.

Awareness becomes useful when it changes how you speak, listen, choose, repair, and lead.
The final phase turns insight into a grounded way of living.

WEEK 10

Truth, Needs & Boundaries

Practice saying what is true, asking for what you need, and setting a boundary without attacking, disappearing, or apologizing for existing.

 

WEEK 11

Connection & Intimacy

Stay present when closeness feels vulnerable and build the emotional availability your relationships require

WEEK 12

The Grounded Man

Integrate what you have learned into a personal practice for meeting life with more honesty, choice, and embodied leadership.

 

04 / WHAT A SESSION FEELS LIKE

We work with the man
who is actually in the room.

Every session has a clear container, but this is not a rigid curriculum delivered at you. We follow the place where the teaching meets your lived experience.

ARRIVE

Ground and get honest

We slow down, notice what is present, and name what needs the room today.

EXPERIENCE

Move beneath the story

We use somatic awareness, inquiry, parts work, and direct practice to contact what is underneath.

INTEGRATE

Bring it into your life

We identify the honest conversation, boundary, emotional rep, or choice that carries the work forward.

 

05 / THE CONTAINER

Consistent support.
Personal work.

The structure keeps us moving. The work stays centered on you—your nervous system, your protective patterns, your relationships, and the life you want to create.

WEEKLY SESSIONS

Private 90-minute coaching sessions for 12 weeks

PERSONAL PRACTICE

Somatic exercises, inquiry, journaling, and emotional reps shaped to your work

INTEGRATION

Concrete practices that bring the session into your relationships and daily life

06 / WHAT WE ARE BUILDING

Not emotional perfection. Emotional capacity.

You will still get angry. You will still feel fear, shame, grief, and uncertainty. The change is that you become more able to stay with what is true and choose what happens next.

01

Notice what is happening inside you before it becomes a reaction.

02

Stay present with anger, fear, sadness, shame, and anxiety.

03

Understand what your protective patterns are trying to do for you.

04

Communicate more honestly without attacking, withdrawing, or collapsing.

05

Create clearer boundaries and make more deliberate choices.

06

Bring greater emotional presence into the relationships that matter most.

THIS WORK IS A GOOD FIT IF

You are willing to
participate in your
own change.

  • You can be honest about what is not working.
  • You are curious about what happens beneath your reactions.
  • You are willing to feel some discomfort without treating it as failure.
  • You will practice between sessions and bring back what you discover.

THIS MAY NOT BE THE RIGHT FIT IF

You want someone
else to do the work
for you.

  • You are looking only for advice, tactics, or a quick fix.
  • You want to prove someone else is the problem.
  • You are unwilling to slow down or examine your own impact.
  • You need clinical mental-health treatment beyond the scope of coaching.

THE FIRST STEP IS A CONVERSATION

You don’t need to promise twelve weeks today.
You only need to tell the truth about where you are.

We’ll talk about what keeps repeating, what you want to change, and whether this journey is the right container for the work.
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JEFF DORAIS MEN’S COACH

Emotional intelligence. Embodied connection. No bullshit.

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